During a business writing course that I took years ago, the instructor had us write an e-mail. I can’t recall if it was written to a co-worker or customer, but after writing this e-mail, she had us count every “I” and “You.” We talked about how we need to weight the mix of I/You so the focus was more on You and less on the I. We needed to make sure that the e-mail’s audience felt like we were focused on them more than ourselves. Feel that we’re more concerned with sharing information with them, helping them to get their needs met, instead of talking about everything we were doing or focusing on ourselves.
Obviously, the topic at hand can impact what that mix of I and You should be, but her point was really more about the feeling that the reader was taking away from the document. She wanted the reader to feel like they were important, they were the priority.
The people who are great at customer service know how to use an “I.” When they’re ending a call with the customer, they ask: Is there anything else I can do to help?
When they’re leaving a planning meeting, they state: Please let me know how I can best support this project.
When there is a complaint, they’ll say: I’m so sorry to hear about the situation.
It’s always best when you’re serving others to use terminology that conveys a focus on that other person. It’s equally important to use the “I” verbiage when you are conveying your interest in helping, when you are seeking to support the team, when you’re taking responsibility for an issue.
Be conscious of the use of You and I to deliver the right tone in your customer and team conversations.
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