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Familying with Customers - 10/28/25


In our transactional society, it’s hard to think about customers in the long-term.  But if we want to be as successful as we can as an individual or as a business, we need to view customers through a relationship lens. What do we need to know about them to Read more

Avoid These Techniques - 10/21/25


We had a Customer Service Tip of the Week recently that addressed gaining control of the conversation.  One of the key points was that the focus should be on gaining control of conversations in various circumstances, but trying to avoid making it your goal to gain control of the Read more

View Quality through the Customer’s Eyes - 10/14/25


Geri had been dealing with backups in the downstairs plumbing system of her house on and off for the past year.  The most recent company that she called in to unclog the pipes stated that they could send a camera down the pipes and tell her exactly where the Read more

Be Supportive, Not Defensive - 10/7/25


[An employee on the phone with a customer…] Who told you that you didn’t have to submit that form? … Bob?  Oh brother!  You see Bob is our “special” co-worker.  He seems to always tell customers the wrong thing to do, and we’re having to clean up after him.  Read more

Some Customers LOVE Predictability - 9/30/25


I was facilitating focus groups of businesses that utilize local government services.  The phrase that popped up multiple times was “Time Is Money!”  What these municipal customers were conveying was that their time was valuable, and delays were wasting their time.  But the conversations were not just about how Read more

Find Your Special Sauce - 9/23/25


When I watch a football game and I see a great quarterback (somebody who may be considered a “Star”), he might be an excellent runner, have a big arm, be able to diagnose the defense and get his team into the right play.  But he’s likely not great at Read more

Gain Control of the Conversation - 9/16/25


The customer’s angry or upset or they have a complaint.  They’re very chatty or very wordy or they just want to talk to somebody.  You’re on a time crunch, and the customer obviously is not. There are times when you need to gain control of the conversation.  It’s important for Read more

Complement with a Compliment - 9/9/25


We perform many tasks for our customers every day, and when we’re done with a step in the process, oftentimes we will tell the customer what’s been done.  But if we want to create more of a WOW experience, if we want to make the customer feel a little Read more

When Patience Begets Patience - 9/2/25


Jennifer, the server, walked toward the couple in the restaurant.  The customers had been seated for a minute or two, and they noticed the server was walking briskly toward their table.  Jennifer recognized the couple she was about to serve, because they had been in the previous week. Since the Read more

Address the Expectations that Were Set - 8/26/25


Before the caller ever got to Marco – the customer service representative, the customer had been working with the company for months.  They had read the marketing brochures, had a conversation with a sales rep, reviewed the new customer information on the website, and read all the information e-mailed Read more

Talk Yourself Up to Take Down Their Anxiety – 7/29/25

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I believe that most customer service people are pretty humble, so I’m not asking you to lose your humility.  But I do have one ask of you…

When that customer is anxious or nervous, when they fear the future because the future is unknown or it could be laced with negative outcomes, part of what brings their anxiety down, part of what calms their nervousness is their confidence in you.  So, that might require that you talk a little about yourself – not to brag – but more so to help them realize they’re working with somebody who will help.

What can you say about yourself to build confidence in the mind of the customer?

First, make sure they know your name.  If you’re going to help them through a process, they feel more comfortable with somebody that they feel like they know or can call by name.

Next, weave in how long you’ve been working at the organization.  If you haven’t worked there that long, let them know how long you’ve been working in the industry or how long you’ve been working on similar issues.  Time conveys experience which can convey knowledge and expertise.  If you are brand new to the company or industry, tell them about your training or your team of co-workers.

Talk about similar customers – probably not by name – but those who were in similar situations or were dealing with similar stresses as the customer in front of you.  Talk about those customers without going into too much depth on what their issue was, because it’s not about the other customer.  But talk about those similar customers and the positive outcomes that transpired.  Here you are painting a positive picture for the individual in front of you by sharing stories of those you’ve helped in the past.

Note your familiarity with the process you’re going through or technology that you’re using to go through this process.  If they sense you’re knowledgeable about the nuts and bolts of resolving the issue or addressing the need, then that’s another confidence-builder.

Sometimes you have to talk about yourself even if you’re the most humble person in the world, because sharing about yourself creates comfort for the customer.

Talk yourself up to take down their anxiety.

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Avoid Some Stress by Addressing Issues Quickly – 7/15/25

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It’s good customer service to resolve issues quickly.  The customer sees the light at the end of the tunnel.  They more quickly bring their anxiety and stress, their negative emotions down.  And they more quickly get to a solution.

But this tip is not about them.  This tip is about you.

The more an issue drags on, the more likely the customer is going to call you back, e-mail your co-worker, try to get your boss on the phone.  It’s extra touch points.  Maybe they are just trying to get an update, or maybe they don’t realize that it’s on your To Do List already, or maybe they’re wanting to light a fire by bringing your colleagues into the matter.

Whatever the rationale behind their extra communications, it’s causing you more work, and it could be increasing pressure and stress from inside your organization.

When issues are still open, when they still are not resolved, they are part of your backlog.  They’re part of the things that you need to address.  They become one of those things you have to organize and manage, one of the many actions that you need to track and take.

So, the more open items there are, the more you have to manage, the better organized you have to be, and the more opportunity there is for something to fall through the cracks.

Stress is an emotion that we feel; it’s reflective of pressure that we’re under.  And while stress is a reality of life that we all have to deal with, there are opportunities for us to operate in such a way that we can avoid the causes of some of the stress.

One way to do that is to try to address issues on the spot.  Try to resolve complaints as quickly as possible.  It’s not just great service to the customer, but it’s a good way to serve yourself.

Avoid some stress by addressing issues quickly.

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Negate the Nervousness – 5/6/25

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The customer needed a loan, so he walked into the bank, but he was a little nervous.  He knew that launching his business would be easier if he had some working capital, but that’s about all he knew.  He was anxious because he didn’t know what to expect in the process, and he didn’t know if he’d get a loan.  If the loan was approved, he was uncertain of the amount of funding he’d receive, the interest rate, by when/how he’d have to pay it back.

Then he met Marguerite.  She was the banker, and she didn’t know the customer, didn’t know the needs, didn’t know whether she could address the needs.  But Marguerite had her act together.  What she DID know was her approach to engaging a customer that walked through the doors.  She knew her paperwork, her policies, her procedures.

Marguerite understood – that despite dealing with data, facts, figures, money – she was also dealing with a human being.  She was also dealing with his emotions, and she could see the emotions – a mixture of anxiety and hope – written on his face.  She was also dealing with the understanding that – handled effectively – she could be starting a business relationship between the customer and the bank that could last a lifetime.

We’ve Been There, Done That – But the Customer Hasn’t

With new customers, there’s often apprehension.  There’s a fear of the unknown.  There’s uncertainty.  And if we can change the uncertainty to certainty, then we can convey hope, we can build rapport, we can help grow the customer’s confidence.

Marguerite could not convey certainty about the outcome, but she could convey certainty about the process.  She could describe the steps, note what had worked in the past with other clients, and share an attitude of interest, concern, and responsiveness.

Negate the nervousness.  Build customer confidence by creating some certainty.

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